My wife has recently been showing her loving side in her leadership of our relationship. The hectic pace of our transition is subsiding and she is able to find time to collect her thoughts to address some situations that have been around and she has been doing so with a loving hand, as is her nature.
She is getting into shape by exercising at the local YMCA and twice a week goes to swim instead of normal machine aerobics. She has brought us all, but with us not getting back until about 8:00 and then me having to get dinner ready, she decided to just take our eldest and leave me and our youngest behind. I can tend to cooking dinner and putting to sleep the youngest this way, and also Thursday nights are when I like to do laundry. Her change here still makes time for our eldest to get out of the house and have some entertainment, but leaves me the time for domestic things that my wife saw I was having to strain to stay on top of.
Also, I mentioned to her that I sensed our eldest was feeling sad from having lost all his friends at our old neighborhood. With us being away each weekend, he has not had really much opportunity to make new friends around here. My wife decided to have me look into a martial arts class for him. Again, an outstretch of her loving dominant hand in the relationship.
There have been many others, such as her making an effort to ensure I am sexually teased a few times a day, overseeing my taking care of the children and changing things to her view of how I should be doing it, watching me for signs of frustration and when she sees it telling me to go calm down. It is, for me, such a good feeling to be under the authority of a dominant wife who expresses her leadership over me in a loving way. I am still prompted to give the two hour foot massages while she watches a movie or reads in her kindle, and other things that show she is not hesitant to use me for her desires, but the loving touch has been noticeable recently now that we are mostly done with transition things.
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What i have learned is to trust in my Wife's leadership. What this means to me is to do as told, when it is told, and how it is told.
ReplyDeleteAlso, to do it with a smile. To show my wife that it pleases me to be her servant.
The happier i am as a her servant the more dominant Kathy becomes with me. The FLM works for us for one reason. Every day in so many ways Mistress shows her love for me. Simply being allowed to kneel at her feet makes me feel special.
It makes me feel loved. It makes me feel wanted. This sense fo belonging is so important for submissve men.
Both Mistress and i enjoy reading your blog. Too many of the guy blogs forget about the importance of love in a relationship. As men we don't like to talk about feeling. We would rather talk about sports and sex. The heavy emphasis on sex turns my Mistress off to many of the blogs.
Also, Kathy said she wanted to send you a big kiss for this wonderful posting.
John
John,
ReplyDeleteI too have found when I follow what my wife is directing that things work out best. Even if she falters in some decision, which is rare, she has the opportunity to put it to lesson learnt and I did not muddle the waters for her. My lock step following is helpful in either case.
As to contentment, I too love to overtly express my submission. It makes me feel whole. I was asked by my wife to make lunch yesterday, while her mother, sister-in-law, and her stood next to me and carried on their conversation. Also, being able to sit at her feet while she watches a movie and a million other things through the day. To know she is comfortable using me to her pleasure is hard to put into words just how wonderful it makes me feel.
Glad you and Ms. Kathy enjoy posts I do. I simply account things and my feelings and it is encouraging to know others can relate.
Hope you two had a good weekend.
-SH